What’s the riskiest thing you’ve ever done?
If asked this question some people will say or think something sexual, some will think back to when they faced their biggest fears or climbed the highest mountain. But me, the biggest risk I’ve ever taken is giving love a chance.
Love is something that can’t be narrowed down to one word, one sentence, or one description. The definition is merely based on your individual opinion. I believe love should ground you and at the same time lift you up. It should motivate you to reach for the brightest and biggest stars. It should make you better. Most importantly, it should bring you happiness, comfortability, and peace. There’s a lot of things that love shouldn’t make you feel with one being hard to love.
Telling people to take a risk on love is like telling them to pull their own teeth out. It’s not easy, especially when you’ve endured heartbreak and pain in the past. I’ve heard that there’s no love without risk, and worse, there’s no love without loss. It takes a lot of courage to expose yourself and be vulnerable, because that’s what loving someone comes with, vulnerability. Loving anyone and anything comes with the risk of being hurt and damaged when it’s all said and done. Would you rather have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? What’s more important to you – to love with everything in you taking on the risk of heartbreak, or to hold back opening up your heart out of fear and trying to keep yourself from the risk and dangers of heartache?
Trying to shield your heart only creates more problems. Yes, heartbreak is painful but not nearly as painful as the hell we create for ourselves by holding back what we may be feeling out of fear of getting hurt. The most beautiful love stories arise from two people taking risks on love. If I let my past heartaches and heartbreaks take over my life there would be no love for me, there would be no risks being taken. I told myself it’s better to be happy in the present than to spend my time worrying about if I’ll be sad in the future. Life is risky, the future is unknown so why waste time trying to paint a picture of yours? Your canvas will always need adjustments and color changes because people change, circumstances change, and life changes. Some of the worst heartbreaks once brought us some of the happiest moments in our lifetime and that alone is enough encouragement to keep loving and being grateful that I have the ability to do so. Don’t spend majority of your life being unhappy and scorned because of past situations, let go and let God. Let go of that fear and learn to simply live. Are you taking the risk on love, or are you shielding your heart?
Today I challenge you to open up your heart a little more and see what taking that risk will bring you. There’s always a possibility that things won’t work out or that your heart will get broken but don’t let that possibility cause you to miss out on the greatest experience you may ever receive. Don’t forget to love yourself!
Thanks for reading, Be Blessed & Stay Humble.
Don’t forget to head over to my website (findingyourself.bigcartel.com) to check out my first two self-published books! “Finding YOUrself: The Road to Self-Love & Discovery” and “Heartbreaks and Heartaches”