Is it true that what you won’t do in a relationship another person will?
Hell yeah, there are people waiting for a good man or women to enter their life so they can love and treat them properly. There are people who wish to give others a love they’ve never experienced. BUT… this “what you won’t do another person will” mindset can be a problem.
I know we’ve all heard the saying that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side and that my friend, is very true.
Here’s the thing, a lot of people have thrown away meaningful relationships based on this thought process. Often times we tend to think that what one person is lacking another person can bring to the table. While this is true let’s remember this, that person can be lacking in another area and then the continuous cycle of looking for a person who can give us what we want begins. A lot of problems in relationships can be fixed with one simple thing, “communication”. Communicate your problem areas and how they can be worked on and fixed. If your partner does nothing to fix those problems then yeah, you find a person who is willing to put in that effort to keep you happy and satisfied within the relationship.
The major underlying problem is that people are getting in relationships with those they are not compatible with. This isn’t noticeable at first due to the honeymoon phase and lust that gets in the way and blinds the senses. You may notice the red lights and trigger warnings but you keep going due to the feelings that you’ve developed. Once the honeymoon phase is over you realize that this person is nothing like you thought and you have more differences than you’d like. Ultimately, you are on two different levels and meant to take two different paths. It’s hard in situations like this when children are created because lots of damage is done to the family dynamic.
One of the hardest things to do is to accept the fact that the person you wish to be with is no good for you. And one of the worst things you can do is throw away a meaningful relationship because you thought the grass was greener on the other side only to find out it stood out so much because it was fake. Relationships can be tricky, they can be emotional, they can be difficult. Sometimes the grass IS greener on the other side but often times it is not. Don’t settle in an unhappy relationship out of hopes that your partner will get their shit together. Once you have communicated the problem your job is done and if you see nothing is being done to fix it, that tells you enough.
The most important thing to remember is this: Good people don’t depreciate in value, their worth only increases in a world so full of bad intentions and vibes.
Here’s another scenario, It’s not always that what you won’t do another person will; when you’re with a person for a certain period of time it’s not that they aren’t doing these things, you just don’t notice them anymore. They become the norm, if you have a person that goes above and beyond you become used to it. You start wanting more, you want something new and exciting. Relationships go bad because people don’t take the time to stop and reflect on the things their partner does or how significant their contributions are. A lot of great people have been neglected and mistreated because of their greatness, which leads them to question their worth and value. This is when you go after the “greener” grass and pursue someone who you believe can do better when in reality you’re leaving the one who was giving you everything and more. Eventually you’ll realize how wrong you were and then it’ll be too late. Your now ex-partner will have moved on and flourished in another relationship which leaves you salty and unhappy. Don’t be that person. Don’t give up so easily, reinvent and make it new again if it’s losing its spark, communicate before you decide to explore the other side of the yard because what you abandon and neglect will be cherished and treasured by someone else, and that’s nothing but the truth.
Thanks for reading, Be Blessed & Stay Humble.