Okay so I’m sure we all have seen or heard about Gucci and Keyshia Ka’oir’s wedding right? If not just hop on social media and I’m sure you will automatically be filled in.

Keyshia Ka’oir Davis and Gucci Mane Wedding
                                   Credit: Susan Stripling

First off congrats to them both. Last night a post surfaced on Instagram that I just so happened to come across on Twitter with the caption “The most valuable part of a woman” what the post said was “Everyone wants this, but what y’all forget was she was with Wild Gucci, on drugs Gucci, cheating Gucci, in jail Gucci, publicity with other women Gucci | This is Gucci after therapy / rehabilitation | This is a street man Groomed in his 30’s after he’s been at his lowest | Point is, this is a RIDER who knew what she signed up for | You bitches is with the next nigga after couple fights” posted by Instagram user (ceopapidon) a man of course. So I automatically weighed in with my opinion on Twitter quoting the post with said caption “The most valuable part of a woman” which had a picture of both Gucci and Keyshia and the Instagram post screenshotted. I weighed in with my opinion saying “Wow. A woman’s value does not come from how much she chooses to put up with! Let’s not ruin a happy moment.”

I went on to say how this relationship/love mentality that people have is trash. Why does it take for a man to literally put a woman through hell for her to be worthy of love and marriage? I am in no form or shape hating because they both seem genuinely happy and in love but not everyone is going to put up with that to get a ring and lavish things, and you shouldn’t have to! Here are some tweets I couldn’t agree more with tweeted by Twitter user @delafro_

  • “I’m not a “ride or die” chick and I’m unapologetic about it. Stop trying to guilt women for not staying with men through their bullshit.”
  • “People love to romanticize how much bullshit a woman endures especially for the sake of a man. That’s fucking sick. Cut that shit out.”
  • “My worth as a woman doesn’t stem from what I’m willing to put up with to prove my “loyalty” and you can not convince me otherwise.”
  • “It’s not my job to coach a man into his adulthood. It’s not my job to make him want to be a better person. Stop tasking women with that shit.”
  • “Peep how no one one asks for men to sit through a woman putting them through hell but yet this duty is always placed on women.”

Yes, yes and more yes!! I could not agree more, once again those tweets came from Twitter user @delafro_ which I retweeted and agree with. People are basically telling women “stay down until a man respects your relationship” and that’s something I can’t promote or the type of behavior I want to see. There is definitely a limit to my love, I can’t speak for anyone else but I simply refuse to be put through so much just for the sake of love. The same cannot be said for men, you don’t see men out here putting up with constant cheating and lies from women. The minute a woman does something wrong, especially cheating, she becomes a whore, slut, hoe, you name it. I have rarely seen a man take a woman back after cheating, while it does happen, it’s rare. For them it’s like the ultimate “no-no” but they expect for women to repeatedly excuse them of their bullshit because they’re “still growing up” PLEASEEEE miss me with that. At the end of the day we all know right from wrong and people like to use their past or parental relationships as an excuse as to why they can’t do right by you. I don’t want to hear any of it to be honest. We all know what we should and should not be doing while in relationships so please stop making excuses for “ain’t shit” people. But to each it’s own, if you are happy in your relationship by any means go ahead and be happy but don’t try to guilt people for not having that ride or die mindset. No one wants to deal with someone’s bullshit or to stay down and be loyal while they continue to do them. No thank you, and ladies please know you deserve better than to be subjected to that. Be with someone who respected your relationship from the beginning!!

Thank you for reading, Be Blessed & Stay Humble. As always Choose You Always!

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Just a small girl in a big world chasing an even bigger dream. Philly girl trying to make a difference in the world. Why not start with a blog right? So enjoy while you’re here. 19 years young attending Temple University just trying to make it out and share my journey along the way. It’s rare to find females who still value themselves and possess morals and goals in this day and age but there are a few who still exist. I was given the gift to live, write, and feel free to express myself and so. . that’s what I’ll do. Welcome to my world, welcome to my life. Feel free to take a window seat and watch how it unfolds. Feedback is appreciated. I’m here to help, motivate, and share pieces of myself. God bless and best wishes. "There is an inner beauty about a woman who believes in herself, who knows she is capable of anything that she puts her mind to. There is a beauty in the strength and determination of a woman who follows her own path, who isn’t thrown off by obstacles along the way. There is a beauty about a woman whose confidence comes from experiences; who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and move on."

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