Becoming a mother has aided in my growth and made me more aware about a lot of things, the number one thing being health and wellness. It’s such a huge responsibility to be the one that a person depends on for everything and of course you want to do things to the best of your ability. Presently, there is so much research circulating and I’ve been soaking everything in. When I became pregnant I had to worry and question everything, “Do I circumcise him if he’s a boy?” Do I give him vaccines?” “What do I do?” It’s scary becoming a parent but it’s even more scary being uneducated on certain topics that will become important in parenthood.
As I talk to people around me about the research I find it’s amazing to see how people are literally well…brainwashed or more so stuck in a certain mindset. It often makes me angry because I want to help everyone and inform people on things that may benefit them. Unfortunately we live in an era where our elders think just because “they” and “we” grew up on certain things and traditions that it’s the best way or thing, etc. Also people are just lazy and don’t care enough to seek out information. Which can turn into the trickle down effect of generations following in those steps because “my Grandmom did it and she turned out fine” or “my mom said it’s okay so it must be” and I’m not trying to discredit our elders but it’s okay to stray away from the things that people consider the norm.
There’s a lot of things and choices I originally made before I gave birth that I wished I would have stuck with but I let people around me influence my choices because it’s my first merry-go-round with parenting so they must know more or better than me…right? Some of those choices I still don’t find comfort in. For example, I wish I would have breastfed my son longer, I wish I could have produced more milk, and although I’m still trying it still makes me feel like I’ve failed him in a way for not sticking with it early on. For months I’ve been trying, I tried to stick with pumping, have brought several supplements but it just hasn’t worked how I hoped and planned. Also other choices like vaccinating. I’ve always felt indifferent but I fell for the “I got them so it’ll be alright” tune that most people sing. As I continue to do research I stray further away from continuing to do so. Of course people look at me like I’m crazy because that’s what we’ve been “taught” to do and it’s the “safest” thing. Research says otherwise and I’m beginning to be more scared of injecting my son with foreign chemicals than taking the risk of not doing so. His father is indifferent to the idea/topic and placed the decision in my hands as he feels I’ll do what’s best, and he’s under 1 so I still have time to make a decision.
Why are vaccines considered important? According to the CDC,
“The first time a child is infected with a specific antigen (say measles virus), the immune system produces antibodies designed to fight it. This takes time . . . usually the immune system can’t work fast enough to prevent the antigen from causing disease, so the child still gets sick. However, the immune system “remembers” that antigen. If it ever enters the body again, even after many years, the immune system can produce antibodies fast enough to keep it from causing disease a second time. This protection is called immunity. It would be nice if there were a way to give children immunity to a disease without their having to get sick first. In fact there is: Vaccines contain the same antigens (or parts of antigens) that cause diseases. For example, measles vaccine contains measles virus. But the antigens in vaccines are either killed, or weakened to the point that they don’t cause disease. However, they are strong enough to make the immune system produce antibodies that lead to immunity. In other words, a vaccine is a safer substitute for a child’s first exposure to a disease. The child gets protection without having to get sick. Through vaccination, children can develop immunity without suffering from the actual diseases that vaccines prevent.”
Being scared of the unknown can cause us to make decisions that we aren’t necessarily comfortable with but it’s important to stand your ground and be comfortable in what you believe in. I often hear the “you’ve been vaccinated and you turned out fine” argument but that’s no longer enough. I was born in 1994 it’s 2019 and excuse my vulgarity but shit just isn’t the same anymore. It scares me to see and hear these stories about babies and toddlers dying after receiving their shots. Or even about children regressing in developmental milestones or developing intellectual disabilities, sometimes even physical. The government is all about a coin, everything is corrupt, they thrive off making the sicker sick and the richer rich. Everything has a dollar sign. Don’t be naïve, all or most of these diseases are probably man-made and created in a lab. They will breeze over side effects and say everything is “normal”. Every time my son gets his shots he has an allergic reaction and his legs rash up at the injection site badly because whatever is in it isn’t agreeing with his body. The last time he received his shots at 6-7 months he had a high fever for almost 2 days and I just was over it at that point. They push vaccinations so much because they profit from it. I’ve learned to ask questions, pay attention, and have an opinion because if you don’t, you’re screwed. They will convince you that it’s the best choice, but is it? This is what we always hear but these “myths” turn into facts everyday. Learn the risks, weigh the pros and cons.
Some parents do not vaccinate their children, believing myths that vaccines are dangerous or cause disorders like autism. Parents also cite concerns that too many vaccines are given at once. Despite much research, there is no scientific evidence that vaccines are dangerous, cause autism or overload the immune system. Every day, a healthy baby’s immune system successfully fights off millions of germs. Antigens are parts of germs that cause the body’s immune system to go to work. “What often happens is a parent talked to a friend who planted a seed of doubt in their mind. They want to look into it further, and meanwhile hold off on vaccines. I would like to remind parents that not vaccinating and delaying vaccines is dangerous,” says Dr. Singh.
What’s more dangerous, vaccinating or not? I watched “Vaxxed” the documentary on the MMR vaccine and I’ve attached it below. Did you know that a lot of doctors who recommend vaccinations don’t even vaccinate their own families? Yes, hospitals, pharmaceutical companies, etc. are all in it for the money. It’s important to know that vaccine injuries aren’t all that rare anymore and in talking to other mothers who vaccinated and are having second thoughts/doubts, it feels good to know I am not alone. I understand the point of vaccines but the things that are in them are not safe for the body. But because they told us it’s safe, we believe them. People are afraid to step out of their comfort, there was a documentary on McDonald’s that showed how the food is dangerously unhealthy and some of us still eat it, even y’all president promotes it. People are also easily influenced. Nobody wants to talk about it or the fact that it’s happening to many people until it happens to them or someone they know. We’re so used to shutting up and eating our food but I’m tired of being quiet about my opinions and research. I’m here to inform and open up the floor for discussion. No matter how many vaccine injuries are reported they have no interest in discontinuing because there’s money in sickness and money in administering medication. Apparently the US Health & Human Services admitted during a court trial that vaccines have not been monitored for safety in the last 32 years, that’s insane. There are several other and holistic ways to build the immune system to fight off sickness.
I want the best for my son and although people may not agree with my choices, whatever choices I do make, I’m ultimately making the ones I feel are right for me and mine. I’m in the process of changing my eating habits and I feel like what my son doesn’t have, he can’t miss. I don’t want him eating fast food or drinking dairy, and I’m honestly leaning towards raising him as a vegetarian or vegan. I’m still in the early research phase because I’m trying to decide which choice I’m making for myself, I’ve already cut out red meat and soon I’ll transition into none at all.
I vaguely recall someone saying I was turning into a “hypochondriac” during my pregnancy and I really wish I remembered who it was. Although that’s not important I’ll be whatever you think I am if it results in my son living a healthy life. I’ll advocate for raising my son the BEST way not the “normal” way until the air leaves my lungs because he deserves that. He deserves that I seek information and educate myself on things I don’t know much or anything about. I’ll take the stares and “girl you crazy” forever because none of that matters or equates to seeing my son grow old. In raising a black boy I already have my hands full and so much to consider. The last thing I want to have to worry about is if the choices I’m making are helping or really hurting him.
All in all changes need to be made because we live in a money driven world. Be aware of what you’re putting into your body and especially into your kids body. Formula is not the best for your baby but sometimes it’s a sacrifice that has to be made because fed is best. There should be way more conversations about breastfeeding and support because it’s not easy at all and some people don’t produce enough milk even with taking supplements. I’ve learned to not beat myself up about it and it’s all about the choices I continue to make to better my life and my sons as well. When it comes to food, look at your packaging, know what you’re eating, inform yourself! Don’t just accept what you’ve been given and take it as truth. There are a lot of harmful things we willingly consume and put into our bodies. Utilize social media, there are so many people and pages who are there to inform and give you information, you have the world at your finger tips everyday, use it to your advantage. Read books, do reasearch, ask questions! Be confident in your choices and if you aren’t, do something about it. You have the power to make change happen.
More “facts” that support vaccinating according to the CDC:
Newborn babies are immune to many diseases because they have antibodies they got from their mothers. However, this immunity goes away during the first year of life.
If an unvaccinated child is exposed to a disease germ, the child’s body may not be strong enough to fight the disease. Before vaccines, many children died from diseases that vaccines now prevent, such as whooping cough, measles, and polio. Those same germs exist today, but because babies are protected by vaccines, we don’t see these diseases nearly as often.
Immunizing individual children also helps to protect the health of our community, especially those people who cannot be immunized (children who are too young to be vaccinated, or those who can’t receive certain vaccines for medical reasons), and the small proportion of people who don’t respond to a particular vaccine.
Vaccine-preventable diseases have a costly impact, resulting in doctor’s visits, hospitalizations, and premature deaths. Sick children can also cause parents to lose time from work.
The questions are to vaccinate or not, did you vaccinate or not and why? I’d love to hear some feedback.
A good read I came across: A Perfectly Healthy Baby Until The MMR Vaccine
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