Hey guys, Happy New Year and welcome back to the blog! While a New Year is exciting enough a lot of mom to be’s have been finding out the gender of their baby(s) including myself. While pregnancy comes with a lot of questions in itself, finding out the gender brings on even more with some being more daunting like “what are the pros and cons of having my baby circumcised“? Yikes… we jumped right in there didn’t we. Right to the point, so I came to the conclusion that most people don’t even think twice about it and honestly I didn’t until I was faced with the fact that I’m expecting a baby boy and it was brought up in a conversation amongst me and his father.
So why didn’t it cross my mind before? Circumcision has become such a norm that no one ever really looks into it. We hear things like intact (uncircumcised) penises are dirty, stinky, and just unwanted, all in all they are looked down upon especially in the looks department. Me being me I went ahead and did my research on it, besides seeing Youtube videos on the procedure that made my stomach hurt I couldn’t find any medical reasons as to why it’s necessary. Go ahead just put in “baby circumcision” on Youtube then let me know what you think. Maybe I’m just super sensitive but seeing the procedure done made me cringe. Of course there are pros and cons as there are pros and cons to every single thing on earth but is it medically necessary? I don’t want to make my child go through a surgery if it’s not a necessity.
I did read that men who are intact can retain moisture between their penis and foreskin which creates the ideal environment for bacteria to grow and can increase the risk of infection for them and their partner. For hygiene purposes and aesthetics seem to be the number one reasons and intact penises run the risk of contracting an UTI which the statistics said has probably a 1% chance of happening. Another risk being that the skin may have to be removed as the child gets older due to an infection or their foreskin not being able to retract properly. The risks of keeping the skin seem minute compared to what can happen with removing it. Botched surgeries being the number one reason to be iffy, it’s important to take into consideration that it isn’t just “snip snip” and done with. Overall, I haven’t seen any medical reasons as to why it NEEDS to be done, it’s always been optional. It seems practicing good hygiene can rule out most of the risks of keeping the skin. Yet and still, people have different opinions; some do it for religious reasons, other do it by choice. If we’re being honest here, they all look the same when hard if we’re talking about looks…but moving on along. I think most people’s opinions come from being told it’s the norm or it’s something that has to be done. Also because circumcised penises have been put on this pedestal of looking better, no one wants to wear the “turtle neck” all year round.
It’s a question that has to be asked and something to think about, don’t jump the gun because you feel it’s the norm. Do your research and know the risks you subject your baby to by circumcising or choosing not to. Becoming a parent means making a decision you feel is best for the sake of your child. And yes, babies are numbed while the procedure is done but my worry kicks in with the risk of what could go wrong. So again, it’s something to think about, if you’re facing the decision with your partner or the fathers child, etc. then talk about it. If you’re not sure of the pros and cons, ask your doctor. Feel free to do your own research but I would like to know what your opinions are on the subject. Would you circumcise your child? Did you circumcise your child? Why or why not? Even if you don’t have children yet or never plan to, if you’re a guy and have experiences with being circumcised or intact, how do you feel about it? If you’re of age and have dated someone with an intact penis did it make a difference? Was it noticeable? Because I’ve been conditioned to feel that’s the norm, it’s a question I can honestly say I’m struggling with. I will say after seeing the procedure done and reading up on it, I am leaning towards not getting the procedure done but it’s an ongoing conversation to be had and research to be done until me and his father come together to make a decision. The way I’m looking at it is if my son wants to get it done as he gets older for his own personal reasons then he can do so. Unless it becomes medically necessary anywhere along his upbringing, the procedure can be done as an adult if he wishes. But then again I hear many stories about the pain if a man has to get it done while older, so it’s a tough one; then there’s the fact that it’s better done as an infant so the debate continues and people continue to have their own personal thoughts and reasoning. Share your thoughts!
Articles to check out on the topic:
- 3 Guys Get Real About Being Uncircumcised
- Should The Baby Be Circumcised?
- The Myths and Facts of Circumcision
- Why I Didn’t Circumcise My Sons
Update: (Jan 6, 2018)
This post has gotten a lot of attention and feedback and I thought I’d add a few of the comments people left via social media. There are too many to include all. Be sure to scroll down and check the comments left on this actual post as well. Links are clickable if you’d like to be taken back to my facebook page to join the discussion there.
Here are some things you can expect from me this upcoming year:
Note that my first two self-published books are still available for purchase. You can find reviews and product information on my site (findingyourself.bigcartel.com) while you’re there you can also take a look at the accompanying products. Be sure to stay in the loop by following @chooseyoualways on Instagram.
Secondly, a third book is in the making and set to release soon, my first urban novel. If you haven’t already read the snippets, click below.
- The Key To My Brothers Heart – Kennedy’s Reign (a snippet)
- The Key To My Brother’s Heart – Kennedy’s Reign (The last snippet)
Last but not least, being as though I am expecting and I am a soon to be mama, I had to represent for the little ones. You can now shop for baby clothes with me @mumstyledme on Instagram!
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