The Flower That Blooms Through All Seasons
Change is something that I have come to terms with, my used to be “love-hate relationship” has turned into one of contentment. I never question it because things change for a reason and in most cases for the better. I am now in my junior year of college and I must say I love the person that I am changing into. It’s not much of a change but a constant evolving overall. I am slowly evolving into the person that I need to be in this lifetime and I truly believe that person is one of many talents and skills.
I am someone who is always looking to be involved in things that benefit me and my future endeavors but I learned that the most joy comes from doing things that benefit others who are in need. I have two internships this year, one being through Americorps where I continue to mentor students with the AVID program. AVID is a program that is designed to help underachieving students with great potential get on the right track to succeed in high school and college. I did AVID last semester and I loved being able to walk into the classroom and see how excited and happy the kids were for me to be there. It’s no greater feeling than knowing that your presence has an impact on those around you and that even children can appreciate the time you give to help them.
My second internship is with Girls Incorporated who strives to inspire all girls to be strong, smart and bold. I participated in this program throughout High School and it is one that I have greatly benefited from. Program Facilitators come into schools and teach girls about economic literacy, leadership and community action, strategies for self-defense, and resisting peer pressure, to name a few. I will be involved in four programs throughout the year teaching girls about preventing adolescent pregnancy, building their skills and interest in science, technology, engineering, and mathematics, economic literacy, and developing leadership. Each program holds different age groups and the girls I will be involved with range from ages 6-18. As I was making my lesson plan earlier today and sharing ideas with my co-facilitator I realized how excited I am to start this journey and be a mentor to these young girls. I look at this generation and most people need someone to look up to and someone to guide them in the right direction and if needed I am willing to be that somebody. It’s not just about going into these schools/centers and teaching a lesson but it’s about building a support system and letting these girls know that there are people out there who care about their education and well-being. I encourage all young girls to be apart of something that promotes positivity and a better lifestyle for themselves and others. If we stopped tearing each other down we would see how much potential we have to build each other up.
My main goal throughout life and with this blog has been to be able to make a change in somebody’s life and I continue to hope and pray that I achieve it. I am grateful for the opportunities that lay before me and hope that I succeed in mentoring my mentees in the correct way. This semester and this year should be a great one if I continue to think and believe it will, I am speaking good things into the universe!
I am the flower that blooms through all seasons because I can only grow from here on out. Be humble and Stay Blessed.
“I hope everyone that is reading this is having a really good day. And if you are not, just know that in every new minute that passes you have an opportunity to change that.” – Gillian Anderson
- Practice gratitude. Look at the good parts.
- Let go of defensiveness. Save yourself and everybody time by skipping the excuses and the bullshit. Beware of denial, intellectualization, rationalization, projection and look at yourself and your life honestly. Seek therapy, support or 12-step groups, and the counsel of good friends and family for perspective. It is only when we let down our defensive wall that we can truly do our deeper work and grow.
- Practice acceptance. Don’t be reactive or get hooked. Don’t expend energy fighting or resisting what you can not change (other people, their feelings, their behaviors, etc.). Instead, empower yourself to change what you can (your thinking, your behaviors, your boundaries, etc.).
- Forgive and let go of resentments. If for no other reason than for yourself, forgive to untether yourself from the negative experiences of the past. During times of prayer or meditation, give thanks for the wisdom and knowledge gained from your suffering. Practice the mantra, “I forgive you and I release you.”
- Be authentic. Be genuine and real. Have the courage and confidence to be yourself. Do not say things that are false, even to yourself.
- Reflect empathy. Let go of the need for judgement. Have the ability to put yourself in somebody else’s shoes, consider how they might feel and reflect that back to them as appropriate.
- Be direct. Say what you mean and mean what you say. The truth will set you free. Talk with the person you have issue with, rather than triangulating others. Avoid passive-aggressive tactics to get your message across (not responding to emails or calls, etc.)
- Be kind and compassionate. Only say things if they are kind, necessary and true. Be of service to others. Consider the needs and feelings of others before any action.
- Have integrity. Do what you say you are going to do. If things have changed and you are moving in a different direction, be honest and clear with others. Be reliable and consistent. Admit when you are wrong. Apologize and make amends as needed.
- Love yourself. Practice self-compassion and self-care. Understand you are exactly as you should be and are perfectly lovable as you are. Forgive yourself and understand you are human and nobody is perfect. Celebrate your life, your unique spirit and gifts. Take excellent care of yourself and surround yourself with people who love you, want the very best for you and will help you grow.