I write what I feel, and feel what I write. I often have second thoughts about what I choose to share on my blog and wonder if I’m sharing too much. Granted, my business is my business but some things I share because I know others can relate. This piece was very personal to me and I only shared because I want women to know that it’s never too late to take back what’s yours. Being young, you make decisions that you look back on and wonder why. There’s no progress in beating yourself up about those choices and to grow you use those mistakes to make better choices in the future. There’s nothing wrong with engaging in sexual activity and the number of partners you feel is okay to have is solely up to you. People will always be opinionated and have something to say about the choices you’ve made. I tell people they know where to stick their opinion if it has any trace of negativity in it.
The number of sexual partners you have does not define who you are. To be honest I never understood why the concept of sex and virginity was always such a big deal. Letting a man stick his penis in me does not make me any more or less of a woman than I was before him. I don’t care if you have 20+ partners, that was a personal choice. As long as you’re protecting yourself and being smart about it, that’s all that matters. Choosing to be abstinent until I feel the time is right was a personal choice because I rather know a persons true intentions before sharing that part of me. I also know that vulnerability can be the death of anybody. You think that you have your guard up but really it’s ready to come down for anybody you think can give you what you’ve been looking for.
I don’t have the ability to look into the future or to know what will happen today or tomorrow. What I do know is that I regret nothing and everything I’ve ever done in life I’ve learned from. Never take off your crown to engage in Un-Queen or King like behavior because everything you do eventually catches up to you. You lie down with dogs, you get fleas, etc. I’m young, I still have room for many mistakes but that doesn’t mean I’m going to go out and intentionally make them. At night I just close my eyes and pray that I am walking on the path God has laid out for me.
Ladies, continue to work on loving yourselves. There’s nothing wrong with having casual sex or whatever the case may be but always be mindful about the decisions you make and how you treat people. The same goes for the fellas, karma is something crazy I’ve heard so be careful.
P.S. sorry about the cursing in the vid but I had to be straight to the point. Feedback is appreciated.
Thanks for reading, Be Blessed & Stay Humble.