“Journeying Through Motherhood”
Katrina: A Mother
Deciding to create a comfy corner on the blog to fill with exciting advice, experiences, tips, stories, and anything helpful I come across as I journey to childbirth and beyond has been one of my greatest ideas. This is a place for expectant mothers and mother’s to come and feel empowered and ready to take on the world. Even if you aren’t expecting or a mother just yet, and just starting your research on what it’s like and what you need to know, you’ve come to the right place! Instead of having several tabs open on Google just stop on by and take a seat.
Today, I’ve had the pleasure of taking a virtual seat with Katrina who was lovely enough to share her experiences of motherhood with me.
Me: Thanks for having a virtual seat with me and choosing to discuss this amazing thing called motherhood. First and foremost, how does it feel to have grown and nurtured two little humans so far?
Katrina: It feels weird because there are so many things that I wasn’t willing to do but it was something my kids love and enjoy but other times it feels amazing because I am able to experience things I never thought were possible.
Me: Tell us a bit about yourself. Tell us a bit about your children, how old are they?
Katrina: Well I am a veteran of the Air Force married 7+ years and I have 2 children and (2 bonus children) through marriage. I am a future entrepreneur. My son Tahir, is four and he is on the autism spectrum so it makes things challenging but he is progressing along very well. My daughter Anaya is 5, she is a princess and everything in her world is about cotton candy and rainbows. She is an honor roll student, caring and empathetic. My 11 year old son lives with his mom in Atlanta, he is mentally gifted and is 2 reading levels ahead and 3 math levels ahead. He loves to dye his hair and play video games. My oldest daughter is 6 she is intelligent and loves to play.
Me: How did you feel or react when you first found out you were expecting your first child? Did you have that same reaction or feel differently with your second?
Katrina: When I found out I was having my first child I was married and traveling to a new country so I cried because I realized everything I planned was definitely not a factor anymore. With my second child I didn’t cry but I wasn’t really excited either none of them were planned. But I’m glad they are here.
Me: How did your first born react to having a younger sibling?
Katrina: My oldest son was overly excited about his younger siblings because he wanted to teach them to dance and play the game. My daughter was excited about the baby after he came, she was oblivious while I was pregnant because she was still getting used to being in the US.
Me: So far, what would you say is your favorite part about being a mother?
Katrina: The best part of being a mother for me would be seeing my children showing off their skills and talents without begging for attention.
Me: What advice can you give to someone who is about to have their first child and mother’s in general? What are some things we may encounter?
Katrina: Before getting angry just take a step back and remember to slow down and help them to reach the goal, it’s practice that gets them where we want them. Putting in the work now smiling through the frustration and communicating with them at their level not the level you believe they are or feel like they should be. PATIENCE!
Me: Did you have any symptoms before you found out you were pregnant? If so, what were they? How did you find out you were pregnant?
Katrina: I had mood swings but didn’t realize it was because of pregnancy like I was volatile while pregnant with my daughter because I honestly never wanted to get pregnant but subconsciously wanted to know if my husband wanted a child I could provide.
Me: It takes a lot to raise a child, go to work, and do whatever else it is that needs to be done. But Mommy’s also want to have fun every now and then. How do you juggle life and raising children?
Katrina: My life is raising my children honestly, trying to be a better me for them is a must.
Katrina: I have tons of skills and hobbies, since I became a Mommy I don’t focus on me time because kids don’t understand Mommy time.
Me: Self-care is really important, especially for mothers who may definitely need a break from running around like crazy. What kind of self-care techniques do you use to refrain from becoming overwhelmed? Most importantly, what do you do to relax and get your mental together?
Katrina: I like to meditate and do hair and makeup, sewing, and reading business endeavors. Honestly I have yet to figure out a system for not being overwhelmed I’m a single mother of 2.
Me: How is the transition? Going from being someone’s child to someone’s parent.
Katrina: Scary because you have to be aware of your responsibility to teach them how to do things and how to process certain things and at the end of the day Mommy knows best even if she doesn’t know it all.
Me: How were your pregnancies? Did you have morning sickness or any complications? Did you have any food cravings?
Katrina: With Anaya , severe morning sickness ate fruit veggies salads grape soda pizza and hot wings every day damn near. With Tahir, Brazilian and Thai restaurants while in Korea, basically I ate horribly with my son but morning sickness was sooooo mild but when it came it was heavy then stopped completely
Me: Reflecting back on the person you were in your teenage years and even before pregnancy. How would you say being a mother has changed that?
Katrina: I’m more conscious of what type of energy and company I want around me.
Me: What is the hardest thing about motherhood?
Katrina: Waiting for your hard work from a goal to be reached (walking, writing, reading).
Me: Did you have a birth plan (natural, medicated, etc.)? How did you end up giving birth?
Katrina: Natural was my plan both times, I ended up having meds every time but I know better now.
Me: We all worry and motherhood increases that worry 10x. What’s your biggest worry about your children’s future? And as a mother, what’s your biggest fear about the journey of motherhood?
Katrina: The biggest fear for me with my children vary for each child because they have their weaknesses. Anaya she wants to believe that people always tell you the truth especially adults. Tahir he is autistic and his temper scares me and his inability to control or express emotions.
Me: One thing you never had that you want for you kid/kid(s) if you choose/want to have more in the future?
Me: How important do you think it is for new mothers and mothers in general to have support through pregnancy and motherhood?
Katrina: Extremely important to know you’re not alone and there are people around you that can help, support, or just listen to help you get through a tough time.
Me: Did you have an idea of what being a mother would feel like? How has that changed since being a mother yourself?
Katrina: Yes because I took care of all my younger siblings at some point in their lives and did it all (pick them up, drop them off, cook, shop, educated) I feel like I do all those but effortlessly.
Me: Would you say your relationship has changed with your partner/baby’s father since becoming a mother?
Me: Did you find it weird when people touched your belly?
Katrina: No loved it; embracing life at its most precious phase.
Me: You’re in a crowded restaurant sitting down to eat and your kid starts throwing a tantrum. What do you do?
Katrina: Find out what they want, they are children trying to understand emotions and feelings and all kinds of things most adults can’t process.
Me: How do you bond and strengthen your relationship with your children?
Katrina: We read together, learn together, and spend time when they ask.
Me: Did you plan to breastfeed, bottle-feed, or both? Why or why not? Which did you end up doing?
Katrina: Breastfeed because it was healthy, natural, and forced me to be mindful of what I did to my body so I couldn’t harm my babies. I ended up doing both.
Me: Craziest or funniest thing you’ve googled so far about pregnancy or motherhood?
Katrina: Homeopathic treatments for crying babies while pregnant.
Me: Anything else you want to share about pregnancy or motherhood? Advice, tips, etc.?
Katrina: There will be times where you feel like you can’t take it or you can’t understand why your children act like they don’t have any sense no matter what you say or do, but remember they are mimicking you. Have a friend that when you need to do REAL PARENTING problems because they know you’re venting and won’t judge.
Thanks for sharing Katrina and letting us take a peek into your life!
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